Monday, December 31, 2012

2012 In Review

The year in review.... and some numbers. 

pictures
... and that doesn't count the phone or iPad pictures. I still enjoy scrapbooking and will head off to Archiver's with friends and colleagues whenever I can. I'm still way behind, but one 'blessing' of losing 14 months of pictures* will make the catch up a little easier. 

workouts!  I love my Curves family and enjoy working out there! This summer my doctor told me that my 'good' cholesterol was 'bad' and that the only way to really get it where it needs to be is to exercise more! What?? It's like I'm getting old or something! So 2013 will still include my Curves workout, but may also include something a bit more intense.... though I really think I just need a 'prescription' for a Wii and Just Dance 4. 

 miles...  Good ole' Bruce has been an amazing little car. I've had him for just over three years and have put over 81,000 miles on him. This year included a trip south, a trip north, a couple trips east, and a few short jaunts west.... not to mention the 80+ miles I drive everyday to and from work!

callings.  In January I was called as the Stake Music Chair - I planned the music for Stake (regional) Conference and meetings as well as organized a Stake talent show and a Stake Christmas fireside. I also organized a training on conducting that was a lot of fun. Next year will focus on putting the stake music catalog online and organizing a musical. You know... in all my copious amounts of free time. In February I was released as the ward Relief Society President - after just over two years of serving. In addition to the Stake Music calling, I am currently also serving as a ward Relief Society teacher and continue to serve as an ordinance worker at the Raleigh NC temple. 


 blog posts...  Sometimes I go on major tangents on my blog and sometimes I don't say much other than what I've been "reading". But I do enjoy writing occasionally and hope that I'm not too boring to all those who check up on me. 





 books!  Speaking of "reading" I read/listened to 72 books this year. I quickly got sick of the "Victorian" challenge I gave myself at the beginning of the year as the language is so hard to mull through. I also gave up on the 1001 Books Before You Die challenge as many of them are not available at Durham Public Library on audio and that's where most of my reading occurs. I did, however, reach my "Where Are You Reading" challenge... even though I didn't update my map. I read at least one book from each of the 50 states. What a fun challenge!

 evaluations.  I still work for Wake County Public Schools as a school psychologist. The last half of the year I took on an additional month of employment to chair the Traumatic Brain Injury Team for the county. That has been a fun and unique challenge and I much appreciate the psychologists I work with. While my evaluation number is lower than in years past, but I spend a lot more time doing consultation with teacher and administrators. But I love my babies of all shapes and sizes and very much enjoy my job. 
cows...  My friend JoAnne painted a cow for the NC Cow Parade. I missed the opening debut for some reason or another and was apparently quite vocal about my disappointment as my friend Katie Baker told me that I should just go around and get my picture with all of them. So with her help, I did! Or at least 76 of the 79. You can see all the photos here. I made a book, too! All around this was a super fun fall project that I really enjoyed creating with Katie Baker! And just for your information.... the cows have been gathered up and will be auctioned off for the NC Children's Hospital in February. 

wards!  In June I turned 31. Which means I'm too old for the young single adult ward. Ha! So after my summer vacation to Utah, I moved my records to the Durham 4th ward. I know several of the people in that ward as they came through the YSA ward themselves or I was introduced to them via friend Young's. So that made the transition a bit easier. I also have made some awesome new friends and I appreciate all the people who have helped me make that transition. 


shows...  When the Durham Performing Arts Center opened a few years ago, I treated myself to season tickets. (Happy Birthday to ME!) In fact, I got two season tickets - which has made me go on the occasional date (some better than others). This year my favorite shows were Memphis, War Horse, and The Million Dollar Quartet... all were fantastic and I'm glad that I have the opportunity to get a little 'culture' throughout my year. 




All in all, I think this adds up to be a pretty decent year. There were some negative numbers in there, too, but who wants to focus on that?? Who knows what 2013 will bring, but I'm sure there will never be a dull moment!

*that didn't happen this year, but that's where I am in my scrapbooking journey

December Reads

66. The Evening Hour by Carter Sickels ***
(West Virginia) 
This book was raw. And full of juxtapositions. But maybe it's because I myself feel like I'm floundering a bit. The main character is doing his best to come to grips with the reality that the mountain he grew up on is no longer there; that it has been destroyed by outside forces over which he has no control. On the flip side, poor decisions have led him down a path of seemingly no return. This book was sad, but at the same time poetic and real. 

 67. Half of a Yellow Sun by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie ****
(1001, Nigeria) 
For a good portion of my life my country has fought in a war. War, however, has never been fought in my country. Despite what I know of modern warfare, I still imagine war being a very archaic thing. Lines of men fighting in hand to hand combat with another line of men in the middle of nowhere. I don't think about people in shops, and cars, and going to school. That whole idea seems so inane.... why would people shoot at innocent bystanders? But this story reminded me of the horrors of living in a war zone; though I really hope I never have to. This story takes place leading up to and during the Nigerian Civil War, or Biafran War during the 1960s. It is told from the point of view of three people: a houseboy to a Biafran professor, the wife of said professor who is also the daughter of a tribal chief, and a lover of the wife's twin sister. Their stories intersect and pick up where the others left off in a poetic weaving of tales. They tell of the rebel movement, the bombing, the refugees, the malaria, all of it. Anyway, I really liked this story for both it's good writing and the bit of history I learned along the way. 

 68. A Light in the Storm: the Civil War Diary of Amelia Martin by Karen Hesse ****
(Delaware) 
I've never read anything from this series (Dear America) before, but it was quite sweet. It was a coming of age story for a young lady living on a lighthouse island during the Civil War. She was pressing the envelope of feminism by working the lighthouse, but she was also falling in love, dealing with loss, and becoming an adult. It was just a cute little read. 

 69. The Legend of Colton H. Bryant by Alexandra Fuller **** 
(Wyoming, Biography) 
Kmart Cowboy. That's funny right there. Mostly because the first time it was mentioned in the book, I knew what she was talking about! Anyway.... this book got me thinking about legends in general. What makes a legend, you know? I mean, this book is about a man a year older than I am. And he's a legend? He's just a roughneck cowboy from the big sky of Wyoming, why does that make him so special? But by the end of the book, as I'm crying down I-440 as I drive to work and listen to his story, I realize that legendary is not synonymous with celebrity. Wikipedia helped me a little.... legend reflects "on a psychological level a symbolic representation of folk belief and collective experiences and serves as a reaffirmation of commonly held values of the group to whose tradition it belongs." So experience... shared experience at that... is what legends are made of. I like it! 

 70. Seedfolks by Paul Flesichman ***** 
(Cleveland, Ohio) 
This was lying on the table in the break room at work, so I picked it up before infect for the day and read it easily within forty minutes of my first flight...with two naps in between. Super short. Super easy. Told from the perspective of a bunch of different people, it shares a story of a garden in the inner city. The hope, the growth, the community. Love. 

 71. The Unnamed by Joshua Ferris **** 
(New York) 
This book was a mixture of Mystery Diagnosis and the makings of an episode of Oprah. The main character has an unnamed diagnosis that wreaks havoc on his professional life, marriage, daughter, and his relationship with God. A quick and interesting read that left me wondering if I had some unknown and seeming in curable disease, what would that change about my understanding of the soul? Hopefully nothing, but you never know.  

72. Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson ***** 
(Biography) 
Sooooooo fascinating! Really. I'm a Mac girl through and through and it was fun to read about the rise... fall (if you can call it that)... and the rise again of Apple. It also outlined Jobs' meddlings in NeXT and Pixar, his health, his family, and his legacy. Really... such a good book. Thanks to Katie Baker for letting me borrow it for my seven hundred flights!

Sunday, December 23, 2012

Teaching our children to understand


Last month - December - I was going to be out of town the week of my assigned teaching calling. I was having a difficult time finding a substitute, but a dear sister in my ward finally came through.... with a caveat. Would I still plan the lesson? It's the middle of the holidays, she has two children who have recently become engaged, a husband who works most of the time out of town, and self-proclaimed ADHD. Organizing a lesson was not her self-professed forte. I readily agreed! I usually don't get this fancy with my 'lesson plans' - as I usually end up writing them on a post-it note with cut up quotes, but it was kind of fun to prepare it this way. Anyway.... I emailed this to her later on in the week and she called me back to let me know she got it. Maybe she was just being nice, but she complimented me on the style in which I had prepared it... or at least I took it was a compliment. Basically she asked if I had gotten the lesson off the Internet or come up with it myself. So I thought I'd share... headings are big and bold.... subheading are colored and bold...questions are italicized... examples are small (in a hope that those present would provide their own examples). Then I can say I found it on the Internet! Ha!

The talk: Teaching Our Children to Understand by Cheryl A. Esplin

The command: teach (our) children to understand the doctrines of "repentance, faith in Christ, 
baptism, and the gift of the Holy Ghost." 

Who is responsible for teaching?
What a sacred responsibility Heavenly Father places upon us as parents to partner with Him in helping His 
choice spirits become what He knows they can become. 

Who are other partners? 
Not all of us have children, either because we've never had them, or because they've grown and moved on... What responsibility do we have in this equation?

What does it mean to understand?
Teaching our children to understand is more than just imparting information. It’s helping our children get the 
doctrine into their hearts in a way that it becomes part of their very being and is reflected in their attitudes and 
behavior throughout their lives. 

What does understanding look like? How do we know we understand something rather than just know information about it?
Teaching our children to understand is more than just imparting information. It’s helping our children get the 
doctrine into their hearts in a way that it becomes part of their very being and is reflected in their attitudes and 
behavior throughout their lives. 

How do we do this?
Our role as parents is to do all we can to create an atmosphere where our children can feel the  influence of the Spirit and then help them recognize what they are feeling. 

What have you done in your home/class to create an atmosphere where children can feel the Spirit?
How do we help those around us, not necessarily even children, recognize the Spirit when they feel it?

Example from talk...
I’m reminded of a phone call I received several years ago from our daughter, Michelle. With tender emotion she said, “Mom, I just had the most incredible experience with Ashley.” Ashley is her daughter who was five years old at the time. Michelle described the morning as being one of constant squabbling between Ashley and three-year-old Andrew—one wouldn’t share and the other would hit. After helping them work things out, Michelle went to check the baby. 
Soon, Ashley came running in, angry that Andrew wasn’t sharing. Michelle reminded Ashley of the commitment they had made in home evening to be  more kind to each other. 
She asked Ashley if she wanted to pray and ask for Heavenly Father’s help, but Ashley, still very angry, responded, “No.” When asked if she believed  Heavenly Father would answer her prayer, Ashley said she didn’t know. Her mother asked her to try and gently took her hands and knelt down with  her. 
Michelle suggested that Ashley could ask Heavenly Father to help Andrew share—and help her be kind. The thought of Heavenly Father helping her  little brother share must have piqued Ashley’s interest, and she began to pray, first asking Heavenly Father to help Andrew share. As she asked Him to  help her be kind, she began to cry. Ashley ended her prayer and buried her head on her mother’s shoulder. Michelle held her and asked why she was  crying. Ashley said she didn’t know. 
Her mother said, “I think I know why you’re crying. Do you feel good inside?” Ashley nodded, and her mother continued, “This is the Spirit helping you  feel this way. It’s Heavenly Father’s way of telling you He loves you and will help you.”  She asked Ashley if she believed this, if she believed Heavenly Father could help her. With her little eyes full of tears, Ashley said she did. (2012 April General Conference, Teaching Our Children to Understand, Sat. Morning Session -  Cheryl A. Esplin)

Sometimes the most powerful way to teach our children to understand a doctrine is to teach in the  context of what they are experiencing right at that moment. These moments are spontaneous  and unplanned and happen in the normal flow of family life. They come and go quickly, so we need to be alert  and recognize a teaching moment when our children come to us with a question or worry, when they have  problems getting along with siblings or friends, when they need to control their anger, when they make a  mistake, or when they need to make a decision. 

What "ah-ha" moments have you had, either for yourself or with children, where a principle of the gospel was understood  better because of the situation?

Just as important are the teaching moments that come as we thoughtfully plan regular occasions such 
as family prayer, family scripture study, family home evening, and other family activities.

Example from talk...
About two months before his children turned eight years old, one father would set aside time each week to prepare them for baptism. His  daughter said that when it was her turn, he gave her a journal and they sat together, just the two of them, and discussed and shared feelings about gospel principles. He had her draw a visual aid as they went along. It showed the premortal existence, this earth life, and each step  she needed to take to return to live with Heavenly Father. He bore his testimony about each step of the plan of salvation as he taught it to her. 
When his daughter recalled this experience after she was grown, she said: “I will never forget the love I felt from my dad as he spent that time with me. … I believe that this experience was a major reason I had a testimony of the gospel when I was baptized.”

What success have you had with thoughtfully planning events to help children understand specific principles?
How does this concept - meaning, thoughtfully planning- apply to visiting teaching?
What lessons/principles from your parents or teachers do you appreciate more now, as an adult?

Example from talk
I first learned to pray by kneeling with my family in family prayer. I was taught the language of prayer as I listened to my parents pray and as they helped me say my first prayers. I learned that I could talk to Heavenly Father and ask for guidance. 
Every morning without fail, my mother and father gathered us around the kitchen table before breakfast, and we knelt in family prayer. We prayed at every meal. In the evening before bed, we knelt together in the living room and closed the day with family prayer. 
Although there was much I didn’t understand about prayer as a child, it became such a part of my life that it stayed with me. I still continue to learn, and my understanding of the power of prayer still continues to grow. 

Remember -
Teaching for understanding takes determined and consistent effort. It requires teaching by precept and by  example and especially by helping our children live what they learn. President Harold B. Lee taught, “Without experiencing a gospel principle in action, it is … more difficult to believe in that principle” 

Learning to fully understand the doctrines of the gospel is a process of a lifetime and comes “line upon line,  precept upon precept, here a little and there a little” (2 Nephi 28:30). As children learn and act upon what they learn, their understanding is expanded, which leads to more learning, more action, and an even greater and more enduring understanding. 

The blessing - what's in it for us
We can know our children are beginning to understand the doctrine when we see it revealed in their attitudes 
and actions without external threats or rewards. As our children learn to understand gospel doctrines, they 
become more self-reliant and more responsible. They become part of the solution to our family challenges and make a positive contribution to the environment of our home and the success of our family. 

What other blessings come from teaching children to understand?

The Times In Which We Live.

I wanted to go to church today, but the baby sister works too much and needed sleep. But just because I couldn't go doesn't mean I can't spend a little extra time pondering the greatest gift to all mankind, right? Right! This talk was mentioned in Sunday School last week as we talked about the signs of the second coming. And given the world was supposed to end this weekend, I was interested in reading it again. In the manner of my new favorite blog - Scriptorium Blogorium - I'm going to add my own thoughts here and there.

Our safety lies in repentance.
Bam! There is no mincing of words here by Pres. Hinckley. This talk was given just a few weeks after the attacks on September 11th. With his opening remarks on Saturday he tells everyone he's going to talk about the attacks specifically the next day. And boy does he ever. I mean, this is an unusual (at least in my mind) opening statement. It's usually thanks for coming, we love you, we're so glad you're doing your best, etc... But not here. Instead, it's a call for repentance. 

Our strength comes of obedience to the commandments of God.
Luckily, the Lord does apparently love us as He gave us yet another step in providing safety for the soul.  And again, it's no flowery description of all the programs and ordinances of the church. We already know all that. It's just a simple call to do what you know.

My beloved brethren and sisters, I accept this opportunity in humility. I pray that I may be guided by the Spirit of the Lord in that which I say.
It makes you wonder if there was something he wanted to say but wasn't "allowed". But that's speculation on my part.

I have just been handed a note that says that a U.S. missile attack is under way. I need not remind you that we live in perilous times.
Coincidence? Maybe. The War on Afghanistan officially started October 7, 2001. But think about this. If you were listening to General Conference that day you were sitting at the foot of the Prophet. Not a bad place to be as your country declares war, in my opinion.

I desire to speak concerning these times and our circumstances as members of this Church.
Listen up! He's going to talk about us!

You are acutely aware of the events of September 11, less than a month ago. Out of that vicious and ugly attack we are plunged into a state of war. It is the first war of the 21st century.  The last century has been described as the most war-torn in human history. Now we are off on another dangerous undertaking, the unfolding of which and the end thereof we do not know. For the first time since we became a nation, the United States has been seriously attacked on its mainland soil.
For most of my life, my country has been at war. However, a war has never been fought in my country. Even with the attacks of Sept 11th, the war was ultimately elsewhere. While I have known this to be a fact, the veracity of it didn't hit me until just recently, as I read a book about the Nigerian Civil War.  Anyway... I digress. This attack threw us for a patriotic loop. But I appreciate the fact that Pres. Hinckley acknowledged the fact that this likely would not be a quick endeavor, but perhaps I'm reading into it with hindsight.

But this was not an attack on the United States alone. It was an attack on men and nations of goodwill everywhere. It was well planned, boldly executed, and the results were disastrous. It is estimated that more than 5,000 innocent people died. Among these were many from other nations. It was cruel and cunning, an act of consummate evil.

Recently, in company with a few national religious leaders, I was invited to the White House to meet with the president. In talking to us he was frank and straightforward.

That same evening he spoke to the Congress and the nation in unmistakable language concerning the resolve of America and its friends to hunt down the terrorists who were responsible for the planning of this terrible thing and any who harbored such.

Now we are at war. Great forces have been mobilized and will continue to be. Political alliances are being forged. We do not know how long this conflict will last. We do not know what it will cost in lives and treasure. We do not know the manner in which it will be carried out. It could impact the work of the Church in various ways.
We live in communities. What happens in our communities impacts our work as individuals, as families, and in the church. As true followers of Christ, how could it not? Pres. Hinckley then goes on to identify a few ways in which the work of the church would likely be impacted, and how right he was.

Our national economy has been made to suffer. It was already in trouble, and this has compounded the problem. Many are losing their employment. Among our own people, this could affect welfare needs and also the tithing of the Church. It could affect our missionary program.

We are now a global organization. We have members in more than 150 nations. Administering this vast worldwide program could conceivably become more difficult.
I am in no way privy to the overall workings of the church, but I feel like while things have gotten more difficult, administering to this worldwide program has only become stronger. Through our concerted efforts in relief, the church has become a trusted partner to administer quickly and sufficiently to natural disasters, war torn areas, and the like. Our humanitarian efforts have not lessened, but have increased.

Those of us who are American citizens stand solidly with the president of our nation. The terrible forces of evil must be confronted and held accountable for their actions. This is not a matter of Christian against Muslim. I am pleased that food is being dropped to the hungry people of a targeted nation. We value our Muslim neighbors across the world and hope that those who live by the tenets of their faith will not suffer. I ask particularly that our own people do not become a party in any way to the persecution of the innocent. Rather, let us be friendly and helpful, protective and supportive. It is the terrorist organizations that must be ferreted out and brought down.
Wow! I love this so much! What a great reminder to not generalize and be mean. In fact, Pres. Hinckley tells us what to do instead... friendly, helpful, protective, and supportive. But just in the last couple weeks, in the world of Web 2.0, I have seen so many revert back to meanness. Sorry for those whom I've already ranted to about this who also read my blog. One incident had to do with some women in the church who decided to wear pants to church in protest of gender inequality. Supposedly there was a FaceyFace group formed that received a lot of attention. Some good, some bad. Eventually it was pulled by Facebook (it was reinstated on Dec 20th). That's pretty bad, if it's pulled by Facebook! There were statements of disagreement, that led to statements of condemnation, that led to calls for excommunication, but still. That's not enough for Facebook to shut down the page. So why did it get pulled? Because someone made a death threat against the organizers! What?!? Though you may disagree with the ideas presented by the organizers, how is any of that behavior exemplary of our Savior? The other incident has to do with the shooting in Connecticut. In an effort to save my sanity, I turned off the news and avoided Facebook for a while, but before I did that, I couldn't help but notice that riddled between the exclamations of sympathy there were a few statements of the sort that if the shooter hadn't shot himself, they'd be happy to do it. Similar comments were made after the shooting in Colorado this past summer. Ugh. But that's not the point. Pres. Hinckley asked us, particularly in times of crisis, to be friendly, supportive, protective, and helpful.

We of this Church know something of such groups. The Book of Mormon speaks of the Gadianton robbers, a vicious, oath-bound, and secret organization bent on evil and destruction. In their day they did all in their power, by whatever means available, to bring down the Church, to woo the people with sophistry, and to take control of the society. We see the same thing in the present situation.

We are people of peace. We are followers of the Christ who was and is the Prince of Peace. But there are times when we must stand up for right and decency, for freedom and civilization, just as Moroni rallied his people in his day to the defense of their wives, their children, and the cause of liberty (see Alma 48:10).
In my opinion, we can only stand up for right and decency, for freedom and civilization if we, ourselves, act right, with decency, free from the wiles of the world, and civil. Consider it mental and spiritual preparation for the defense we will be called to give.
 
On the Larry King television broadcast the other night, I was asked what I think of those who, in the name of their religion, carry out such infamous activities. I replied, “Religion offers no shield for wickedness, for evil, for those kinds of things. The God in whom I believe does not foster this kind of action. He is a God of mercy. He is a God of love. He is a God of peace and reassurance, and I look to Him in times such as this as a comfort and a source of strength.”
Do you ever feel like you only look to Him for comfort and a source of strength in times of crisis?

Members of the Church in this and other nations are now involved with many others in a great international undertaking. On television we see those of the military leaving their loved ones, knowing not whether they will return. It is affecting the homes of our people. Unitedly, as a Church, we must get on our knees and invoke the powers of the Almighty in behalf of those who will carry the burdens of this campaign.
Are we still there? I know I could do better.

No one knows how long it will last. No one knows precisely where it will be fought. No one knows what it may entail before it is over. We have launched an undertaking the size and nature of which we cannot see at this time.

Occasions of this kind pull us up sharply to a realization that life is fragile, peace is fragile, civilization itself is fragile. The economy is particularly vulnerable. We have been counseled again and again concerning self-reliance, concerning debt, concerning thrift. So many of our people are heavily in debt for things that are not entirely necessary. When I was a young man, my father counseled me to build a modest home, sufficient for the needs of my family, and make it beautiful and attractive and pleasant and secure. He counseled me to pay off the mortgage as quickly as I could so that, come what may, there would be a roof over the heads of my wife and children. I was reared on that kind of doctrine. I urge you as members of this Church to get free of debt where possible and to have a little laid aside against a rainy day.
Time for a self assessment! What's your debt looking like?

We cannot provide against every contingency. But we can provide against many contingencies. Let the present situation remind us that this we should do.

As we have been continuously counseled for more than 60 years, let us have some food set aside that would sustain us for a time in case of need. But let us not panic nor go to extremes. Let us be prudent in every respect. And, above all, my brothers and sisters, let us move forward with faith in the Living God and His Beloved Son.
Did you do it? Remember when the counsel was for a years supply? And then three months? And now at least 72 hours? I don't think the need is any less, and while there may be other circumstances in play, I think it's more that we're just not following through. I'm not tooting my own horn here people; I have just as much to do as the next person, but I think I'm on the right track.

Great are the promises concerning this land of America. We are told unequivocally that it “is a choice land, and whatsoever nation shall possess it shall be free from bondage, and from captivity, and from all other nations under heaven, if they will but serve the God of the land, who is Jesus Christ” (Ether 2:12). This is the crux of the entire matter—obedience to the commandments of God.
We've come full circle. It's about keeping the commandments. That's what it has always been about.

The Constitution under which we live, and which has not only blessed us but has become a model for other constitutions, is our God-inspired national safeguard ensuring freedom and liberty, justice and equality before the law.
I don't know where I heard/read it, but somewhere someone asked a lawyer if he could accept the Constitution without all the case law that has followed. Basically, he said no. While he believes the Constitution to be divinely instituted, he also believes that the case law that has been brought up in the last two centuries has made our government stronger and better able to protect its citizens. Anyway, something to ponder.

I do not know what the future holds. I do not wish to sound negative, but I wish to remind you of the warnings of scripture and the teachings of the prophets which we have had constantly before us.

I cannot forget the great lesson of Pharaoh’s dream of the fat and lean kine and of the full and withered stalks of corn.

I cannot dismiss from my mind the grim warnings of the Lord as set forth in the 24th chapter of Matthew.

I am familiar, as are you, with the declarations of modern revelation that the time will come when the earth will be cleansed and there will be indescribable distress, with weeping and mourning and lamentation (see D&C 112:24).

Now, I do not wish to be an alarmist. I do not wish to be a prophet of doom. I am optimistic. I do not believe the time is here when an all-consuming calamity will overtake us. I earnestly pray that it may not. There is so much of the Lord’s work yet to be done. We, and our children after us, must do it.
While we also don't need to be alarmists, we do need to be aware of our surroundings and the prophecies from past and present.

I can assure you that we who are responsible for the management of the affairs of the Church will be prudent and careful as we have tried to be in the past. The tithes of the Church are sacred. They are appropriated in the manner set forth by the Lord Himself. We have become a very large and complex organization. We carry on many extensive and costly programs. But I can assure you that we will not exceed our income. We will not place the Church in debt. We will tailor what we do to the resources that are available.
I think this is one of the few examples where the macro has led the micro. That's how it should be, but I've come to believe in the last several years, and in the case of our economy especially, the micro needs to lead the macro. I don't feel Ike I can demand a debt free government when I myself am drowning in unnecessary debt. But regardless, I appreciate the example of the church as a whole in regards to provident living.

How grateful I am for the law of tithing. It is the Lord’s law of finance. It is set forth in a few words in the 119th section of the Doctrine and Covenants. It comes of His wisdom. To every man and woman, to every boy and girl, to every child in this Church who pays an honest tithing, be it large or small, I express gratitude for the faith that is in your hearts. I remind you, and those who do not pay tithing but who should, that the Lord has promised marvelous blessings (see Mal. 3:10–12). He has also promised that “he that is tithed shall not be burned at his coming” (D&C 64:23).

I express appreciation to those who pay a fast offering. This costs the giver nothing other than going without two meals a month. It becomes the backbone of our welfare program, designed to assist those in distress.
As a Relief Society President I was able to see tithing and fast offerings at work. What a valuable experience! I wouldn't trade it for the world, and would recommend all to give some assistance at their local Bishop's Storehouse to see those funds in action. It's truly remarkable.

Now, all of us know that war, contention, hatred, suffering of the worst kind are not new. The conflict we see today is but another expression of the conflict that began with the War in Heaven. I quote from the book of Revelation:

“And there was war in heaven: Michael and his angels fought against the dragon; and the dragon fought and his angels,

“And prevailed not; neither was their place found any more in heaven.

“And the great dragon was cast out, that old serpent, called the Devil, and Satan, which deceiveth the whole world: he was cast out into the earth, and his angels were cast out with him.

“And I heard a loud voice saying in heaven, Now is come salvation, and strength, and the kingdom of our God, and the power of his Christ” (Rev. 12:7–10).

That must have been a terrible conflict. The forces of evil were pitted against the forces of good. The great deceiver, the son of the morning, was defeated and banished, and took with him a third of the hosts of heaven.

The book of Moses and the book of Abraham shed further light concerning this great contest. Satan would have taken from man his agency and taken unto himself all credit and honor and glory. Opposed to this was the plan of the Father which the Son said He would fulfill, under which He came to earth and gave His life to atone for the sins of mankind.

From the day of Cain to the present, the adversary has been the great mastermind of the terrible conflicts that have brought so much suffering.

Treachery and terrorism began with him. And they will continue until the Son of God returns to rule and reign with peace and righteousness among the sons and daughters of God.
I feel like the words of Dumbledore would be appropriate here... Though I'm not sure which ones. Perhaps, "We're at war, Prime Minister, and steps must be taken."

Through centuries of time, men and women, so very, very many, have lived and died. Some may die in the conflict that lies ahead. To us, and we bear solemn testimony of this, death will not be the end. There is life beyond this as surely as there is life here. Through the great plan which became the very essence of the War in Heaven, men shall go on living.

Job asked, “If a man die, shall he live again?” (Job 14:14). He replied: “For I know that my redeemer liveth, and that he shall stand at the latter day upon the earth:

“And though after my skin worms destroy this body, yet in my flesh shall I see God:

“Whom I shall see for myself, and mine eyes shall behold, and not another” (Job 19:25–27).
I feel as if Pres. Hinckley is reminding us to keep an eternal perspective here. That God has a plan for us, and that through our obedience we will conquer.

Now, brothers and sisters, we must do our duty, whatever that duty might be. Peace may be denied for a season. Some of our liberties may be curtailed. We may be inconvenienced. We may even be called on to suffer in one way or another. But God our Eternal Father will watch over this nation and all of the civilized world who look to Him. He has declared, “Blessed is the nation whose God is the Lord” (Ps. 33:12). Our safety lies in repentance. Our strength comes of obedience to the commandments of God.
I like how he reminds us that to be free is a privilege, not necessarily a right. And again... The call to repentance and to obey the commandments. It's like he wants us to listen or something. In the Bible, they say that if something is repeated three times is was very serious. Well... He just repeated that for the third time!

Let us be prayerful. Let us pray for righteousness. Let us pray for the forces of good. Let us reach out to help men and women of goodwill, whatever their religious persuasion and wherever they live. Let us stand firm against evil, both at home and abroad. Let us live worthy of the blessings of heaven, reforming our lives where necessary and looking to Him, the Father of us all. He has said, “Be still, and know that I am God” (Ps. 46:10).
Let us go and do all that The Lord hath commanded...

Are these perilous times? They are. But there is no need to fear. We can have peace in our hearts and peace in our homes. We can be an influence for good in this world, every one of us.

May the God of heaven, the Almighty, bless us, help us, as we walk our various ways in the uncertain days that lie ahead. May we look to Him with unfailing faith. May we worthily place our reliance on His Beloved Son who is our great Redeemer, whether it be in life or in death, is my prayer in His holy name, even the name of Jesus Christ, amen.
And he just gave us the forumla for said peace in all his words above....so in this time of war, conflict, confusion, and Christmas, may we be the start of a little peace on Earth.

Friday, December 14, 2012

Reactions

My heart goes out to those who have lost so much in Connecticut tonight. I have helped schools deal with crises - never to this extreme - and it is heart wrenching each and every time. I can't imagine the pain they are going through in the aftermath of this seemingly senseless tragedy. To add to all the other web 2.0 reactions, here are my own... few though they may be. 

I commend the staff and students of Sandy Hook Elementary School for following lockdown procedures as quickly as possible - I truly believe this action prevented further causalities. 

Despite personal opinions on gun control, school safety, your political leanings, and the like, I'd admonish all to advocate for better mental health support. I think we can all agree that no one who could plan and/or carry out such a horrific act could be in their right mind. Therefore, acknowledge mental health problems for what they are and advocate for appropriate and adequate treatment for all. 

Be a helper... there has been a quote from Mr. Fred Rogers floating about Facebook today, about seeking out the helpers. I concur. If you need help, seek it. If you can be a helper, do it. Be aware; especially of your children. Tragedies - even far away ones - impact them. For more information contact me personally or look here.

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Once I Was Kissed by Elvis


December 4, 1956 -  a Tuesday - led to an impromptu jam session among Elvis Presley, Jerry Lee Lewis, Carl Perkins, and Johhny Cash. They all had Mr. Sam Phillips - the founder of Sun Records - in common. He had taken them from their country upbringings and made each of them a star. The versions of the session went down differ, but what matters is that some 46 tracks of incomplete songs and chatter were recorded. After more than a decade, the tracks were released in bits and pieces. Most of the songs recorded were old county or gospel tunes that they had all grown up singing, but they threw in a few originals and even some Christmas carols. 

In 2007, a musical called the Million Dollar Quartet opened.... the authors, Floyd Mutrux and Colin Escott, took several of the artists' number one hits and used them to tell the story of the famous impromptu jam session. 

On December 4, 2012 - also a Tuesday - I went and saw this musical at the DPAC. It was phenomenal! While the music was not the same as the original recording, it was so fun to listen to all these great songs. I knew a lot of the songs, which made it just that much more fun. Also entertaining was watching/listening to the audience. Let's just say that I was on the younger end of that spectrum....

There were a few ladies down toward the front who were super excited for the whole show, but seemed to have an extra bit of shake, rattle, and roll for Elvis. Toward the end of the show, Elvis donned a sequence sport coat, sang a bit of "Hound Dog," and did some awesome dancing. To finish it off, he gave his silk hankie to one of those dancing women and sealed the deal with a kiss.... I think she may have swooned. 

Watching all this reminded me of a the Howl 2000. The Howl was Utah State's Halloween party that was known throughout the state as a party of the year. Several rooms with different types of music, games, movies, costume contests, and so many people... it was a lot of fun. My roommate really wanted to go, so we came up with some ridiculous costume and went. We were wandering through the Taggart Student Center when all of a sudden someone dressed in an Elvis costume grabbed me, tucked me into a dip, and kissed me. He let me go, walked off, and to this day, I have no idea who it was. 

Anyway.... if you get a chance to go and see The Million Dollar Quartet, do! It's a fun story, a fun musical, and just a great show! Who knows.... maybe you'll get a kiss from Elvis!


Saturday, December 1, 2012

November Reads


59. That Used To Be Us: How America Fell Behind in the World It Invented and How We Can Come Back by Thomas Friedman and Michael Mandelbaum*****
One of the intervention coordinators I work with at the high school recommended this book to me. In line with The Time of Our Lives, this book was fabulous! It's like the "Waiting for Superman" for politics. I think it should be a required book study for all our politicians... both at the local and national level. Actually, it should be required for everyone. Then we should do something about it. Something. Anything. We need to take back our country. The politicians aren't going to do it.... so we better stop waiting around for Superman, beating the dead horse we're one, whatever, pick your metaphor... and get to work. Feel free to come push me off my soapbox. 

60. I am a Genius of Unspeakable Genius and I Want to Be Your Class President by Josh Lieb ***
(Nebraska)
This story was not as funny as I thought it would be, but it was still pretty funny. Maybe all the kids I work with at school are really geniuses with boatloads of money and they just have nothing better to do with their time than cause havoc at school. That must be it! The moral is nice - that no matter what we have, we still want to make our parent's proud - but weakly developed. The ending is a little abrupt, too. But overall a quick and fun read. 

61. The Plague of Doves by Louise Erdrich *** 
(North Dakota)
For some reason this book was hard to follow. An old unsolved murder and a town of interlinked generations drives the narrative, but I found I couldn't keep track of everything. Though the parts I did get a true grasp on were very interesting. I've never read anything by Louise Erdrich (that I remember), but she is a very popular author. Her characters were creative and real, so perhaps I need to try another one. 

62. Tighter by Adele Griffin ***
(Rhode Island) 
I haven't read a good "ooh, scary" book for a long time so I was super excited when this one started out that way. I was even more surprised that it was in a YA book. I didn't want to stop reading as the mystery of it all just sucked me in. Then it went weird. Not necessarily weird in a bad way, but weird in a let's hurry and get this done so the publisher will get off my back way. I felt like it resolved way too quickly and not adequately. It could, however, be used to broach certain topics with teenagers... including self medicating and mental health issues. So... it's not great, but it's not terrible.

63. My Life as a Rhombus by Varian Johnson ****
(South Carolina)
This was a fun little read about choices, forgiveness, and unpredictable friendships. A little 'deeper' than I would like a teenager to read independently, but with some conversation it would be a good book about making some very tough decisions.

64. The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks ****
(Maryland)
So interesting!!! Some cells were taken from a woman with cervical cancer without her permission in the earlier 1950s. They have since become a crucial part of cell science; helping find the cure for polio, testing the effects of nuclear fallout, and mapping the human genome. Yet, her family didn't even know her cells had been taken and were still alive until nearly 25 years had passed. While science was using them to help solve the world's medical mysteries, her family was often left without health insurance. While telling the story, the book asks a very interesting moral question.... one I'm not sure I'd be able to answer.

65. Seek My Face by John Updike ***
(Vermont)
The whole novel takes place in one day, which is unique in and of itself, but I also like the ebb and flow of the prose.... though I didn't always find interest in the content. The main character talks about her three artist husbands, who are fictitious conglomerations of post WWII artists. I was just proud of myself for recognizing the artistic methods of their main player. That made me feel smart!